house party

2019, Celebration, Children, Emotional Health, Family, Holidays, Love, Life, Parenting

You Still Can: Let Go Of Anything That Doesn't Serve You

See, food and cooking is how I say, “I love you.” It’s how I say, “I’m glad you’re here.” Honestly, it’s one of the reasons I have such difficulty managing the goals for my health and fitness, but I digress. We can chat about that another day.

Off I went to the store the day before the party.

On my way to the store I decided the menu would include baked ziti and a tossed salad with yummy add-ins like gorgonzola cheese, green apples, craisins and such. I grabbed ground and linked Italian sausage. I quickly remembered several of my guests don’t eat pork. No worries! I’ll just grab some ground beef and more ingredients. Now, I have to make two sauces, but I got this. I headed to check out. 

Oh crap!!! One of my guests can longer eat tomato anything. Side note: I grew up in a house that was always entertaining. My parents taught me that you make people feel welcomed by considering them in your choices. In other words, make sure there’s something for everyone. I decided to grab some chicken breasts and veggies to make chicken alfredo pasta too. I finished shopping. I had about 20lbs of meat, a full cart and a fully overwhelmed heart.

2018, Abuse, Communication, Courage, Fear, Friendship, Identity, Life, Love, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-Help, Self-Care, Spread love, Support Others, Workplace, Race, Discrimination

The Party is Over Starbucks: It's Time To Clean The Kitchen

Today I am writing to reach the sensibilities and cognitive capabilities of good White folks.  The power to change the status quo lies primarily with you. You need to say something...  At your dinner tables, at your school board meetings, at the deli counter.  You know racists.  Your neighbors, family and friends express racially charged sentiments that apologetically end with, “you know what I mean.” Or “I don’t mean it like that. You know I’m not racist.”  You must call them out.