Women are so accustomed to taking care of others.  We get taught this from a very young age in a way in which our male counterparts are not.  It’s that dangblasted patriarchal society that conditions us.  Girls take care of everyone.  Not because it makes them happy, but because that’s what womenfolk are for. *chuckle  Anyway, we really need to figure out how to carve out time and resources for the expressed purpose of bringing ourselves joy and relaxation.