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2019, Family, Emotional Health, Identity, Love, Life, Marriage, Parenting, Communication

My Life Is Unpretty and Absolutely Beautiful

Stephanie Pearson-Davis ·

Think of social media as a scrap book or family photo album. Picture your mother or grandmothers photo album on the coffee table. I don’t know about you, but I have seen those photos a hundred times and I never tire of them. They make me feel good. In every picture, the subjects can be found living, laughing and loving. In every picture I feel positive energy. 

I haven’t seen a photo of a divorce decree, a police report from a domestic dispute, a custody order or a child’s failing report card in there. I’m sure the people in the photos experienced some of those things. YET… I have never had any expectation to find that information or evidence of that information in the photo album. I look at that book to see the very best of the people in it; not the worst. So, why do we look at social media any different?

Stop crucifying folks for only showing you the best of their life. That behavior only exposes the worst in you.

2018, Emotional Health, Friendship, Life, Love, Relationships

Expectation: The Genesis of Disappointment

Stephanie Pearson-Davis ·

As I began to reflect; expectation boiled down to two things: Vulnerability and Trust. 

We have previously discussed vulnerability. I have written about its’ importance and the strength we find when we embrace vulnerability. Yet, here I was beating myself up for being vulnerable… for opening myself up to disappointment. This is why I say, “I’m not here because I’m an expert. I’m here because I have experiences.” I’m no master at this. I’m struggling and growing and learning just like you. I stand out only because I share my experiences; not because I’ve mastered them.