As usual, the problem occurs when we don’t communicate our feelings.  Instead, we go dark.  You cannot articulate your feelings and you won’t try because you think it actually sounds kinda petty.  We don’t make calls and we don’t take them.  Too busy either feeling sorry for ourselves or refusing to give people who love us the benefit of the doubt.  Although…. If you’re feeling some time of way the onus is on you to communicate those feelings.